18875 - Abu Zur'ah narrated to us, Ibrahim ibn Musa al-Farra' narrated to us, Ibn Abi Za'ida informed us, Mubarak narrated to me, from al-Hasan, who said: Among the things the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) took [as a pledge] was: That you [women] should not speak with men unless it is a mahram (unmarriageable kin), for a man will continue to speak with a woman until he emits madhy (pre-seminal fluid) between his thighs. (1)
18876 - Ahmad ibn Mansur al-Ramadi narrated to us, al-Qa'nabi narrated to us, al-Hajjaj ibn Safwan narrated to us, from Asad ibn Abi Usayd al-Barrad, from a woman among those who pledged allegiance, who said: Among the things the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) took as an oath from us was that we should not disobey him in any good deed: that we should not scratch our faces, nor let our hair hang loose, nor tear our clothes, nor wail in grief. (2)
His saying, the Almighty: "With a slander they fabricate"
18877 - From the path of 'Ali, from Ibn 'Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) regarding "And they will not bring forth a slander they fabricate": He said: They shall not attribute to their husbands children that are not their own, "and they will not disobey you in any good deed." He said: This is a condition that Allah has stipulated for the women. (3)
18878 - From Umm Salama al-Ansariyya, who said: A woman among the ladies asked, "What is this 'good deed' in which we should not disobey you?" He replied: "That you do not wail in mourning." I said: "O Messenger of Allah, the family of so-and-so helped me with my uncle, and I must fulfill my obligation to them [in mourning]." He refused me, but I kept asking him repeatedly until he granted me permission to fulfill my obligation to them, so I did not wail after that, and there was no woman left among us who had not wailed except me.
His saying, the Almighty: "A good deed"
18879 - Regarding His saying: "And they will not disobey you in a good deed": He said: They shall not tear their garments, nor strike their cheeks. (4)
(1) Ibn Kathir 8/125-128. (2) Ibn Kathir 8/125-128. (3) Al-Durr 8/640. (4) Al-Durr 8/640.
١٨٨٧٥ - حدثنا أبو زرعة، حدثنا إبراهيم بن موسى الفراء، أخبرنا ابن أبي زائدة، حدثني مُبَارَكٌ عَنِ الْحَسَنِ قَالَ: كَانَ فِيمَا أَخَذَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: أَلا تُحَدِّثْنَ الرِّجَالَ إِلا أَنْ تَكُونَ ذَاتَ مَحْرَمٍ، فَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَا يَزَالُ يُحَدِّثَ الْمَرْأَةَ حَتَّى يُمْذِيَ بَيْنَ فَخْذَيْهِ «١» .
١٨٨٧٦ - حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ الرَّمَادِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا الْقَعْنَبِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا الْحَجَّاجُ بْنُ صَفْوَانَ عَنْ أسد ابن أَبِي أُسَيْدٍ الْبَرَّادِ عَنِ امْرَأَةٍ مِنَ الْمُبَايِعَاتِ قَالَتْ: كَانَ فِيمَا أَخَذَ عَلَيْنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنْ لَا نَعْصِيَ فِي مَعْرُوفٍ: أَنْ لَا نَخْمِشَ وَجُوهًا، وَلا ننشر شعرا، لا نشق جيبا، ولا ندعوا وَيْلًا «٢» .
قَوْلُهُ تَعَالَى: بِبُهْتَانٍ يَفْتَرِينَهُ
١٨٨٧٧ - عَنْ طَريِقِ عَلِيِّ عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ الله عنهما وَلا يَأْتِينَ بِبُهْتَانٍ يَفْتَرِينَهُ قَالَ: لَا يُلْحِقْنَ بِأَزْوَاجِهِنَّ غَيْرَ أَوْلادِهِنَّ وَلا يَعْصِينَكَ فِي مَعْرُوفٍ قَالَ:
إِنَّمَا هُوَ شَرْطٌ شَرَطَهُ اللَّهُ لِلنِّسَاءِ «٣» .
١٨٨٧٨ - عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ الْأَنْصَارِيَّةِ قَالَتْ: قَالَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنَ النِّسْوَةِ مَا هَذَا الْمَعْرُوفُ الَّذِي لَا يَنْبَغِي لَنَا أَنْ نَعْصِيَكَ فِيهِ؟ قَالَ: «لَا تَنِحْنَ» قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ: إِنَّ بَنِي فُلانٍ أَسْعَدُونِي عَلَى عَمِّي وَلا بُدَ لِي مِنْ قَضَائِهِنَّ، فَأَبَى عَلَيَّ فَعَاوَدْتُهُ مِرَارًا فَأَذَنَ لِي فِي قَضَائِهِنَّ، فَلَمْ أَنِحْ بَعْدُ، وَلَمْ يبق مِنَّا امْرَأَةٌ إِلا وَقَدْ نَاحَتْ غَيْرِي.
قَوْلُهُ تَعَالَى: مَعْرُوفٍ
١٨٨٧٩ - فِي قَوْلِهِ: وَلا يَعْصِينَكَ فِي مَعْرُوفٍ قَال: لَا يَشْقُقْنَ جُيُوبَهُنَّ وَلا يَصْكُكْنَ خُدُودَهُنَّ «٤» .
(١) ابن كثير ٨/ ١٢٥- ١٢٨.(٢) ابن كثير ٨/ ١٢٥- ١٢٨.(٣) الدر ٨/ ٦٤٠.(٤) الدر ٨/ ٦٤٠.
