and forgive your deceased." For a non-Muslim, one says: "Akhlafa Allahu 'alayka, wa-la naqasa 'adadaka" (May Allah provide you with a replacement, and not decrease your number), intending for the increase of their number so that their jizya (poll tax) may be multiplied. Abu 'Abd Allah ibn Batta said one should say: "A'taka Allahu 'ala musibatika afdala ma a'ta ahadan min ahli dinika" (May Allah grant you for your tragedy the best of what He has granted anyone of your coreligionists). As for the response from the one being offered condolences, it reached us from Ahmad ibn al-Husayn, who said: I heard Abu 'Abd Allah, when he was being offered condolences for 'Abthar, his cousin, and he was saying: "Istajaba Allahu du'aka, wa-rahimana wa-iyyaka" (May Allah answer your supplication, and have mercy on us and you).

Section: Abu al-Khattab said: Sitting to receive condolences is disliked (makruh). Ibn 'Aqil said: Gathering after the soul has departed is disliked, because it causes an agitation of grief. Ahmad said: I dislike offering condolences at the grave, except for one who has not yet been offered condolences, in which case one may offer them when the deceased is buried, or before he is buried. He also said: If you wish, you may take the man by the hand when offering condolences, and if you wish, you may not. If one sees a man who has torn his garment due to the tragedy, one should offer him condolences and not abandon a right for a falsehood, although it is better if he forbids him from doing so.

386 - Issue; he said: (Weeping is not disliked, as long as it is not accompanied by wailing or lamentation).

As for weeping in itself, it is not disliked in any situation. Al-Shafi'i said: It is permissible until the soul departs, and it is disliked after that, due to what was narrated by 'Abd Allah ibn 'Atik, who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came to 'Abd Allah ibn Thabit to visit him, and found that he had been overcome [by death], so he shouted to him but he did not answer him. He uttered "Istirja'" (saying "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un"), and said: "We have been overcome regarding you, O Abu al-Rabi'." The women shouted and wept, and Ibn 'Atik began to quiet them. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to him: "Leave them; when it becomes certain (i.e., when he dies), let no weeping woman weep." And for us, is what was narrated by Anas, who said: We witnessed the daughter of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was sitting at the grave, and I saw his eyes streaming with tears.