He used to command baha' (the capacity for marriage) and forbade ascetic celibacy severely. He would say, "Marry the affectionate, the fertile, for I will be boasting of your numbers before the nations on the Day of Resurrection." Reported by Sa'id (15). Ma'qil ibn Yasar reported that a man came to the Messenger of Allah - peace and blessings of Allah be upon him - and said, "I have found a woman of high lineage and status, except that she does not bear children. Shall I marry her?" He forbade him, then he came to him a second time, and he forbade him. Then he came to him a third time, and he said, "Marry the affectionate, the fertile, for I will be boasting of your numbers [before the nations]" (16). Reported by al-Nasa'i (17). From 'Ali ibn al-Husayn, that the Prophet - peace and blessings of Allah be upon him - said, "O Banu Hashim, you should marry the women of the non-Arabs, for seek their children, as there is blessing in their wombs" (18). It is preferred to choose a beautiful one, for she is more soothing to one's soul, more chaste for one's gaze, and more complete in one's affection. For this reason, looking [at the prospective spouse] before marriage was legislated. It has been narrated from Abu Bakr ibn Muhammad ibn 'Amr ibn Hazm, from the Messenger of Allah - peace and blessings of Allah be upon him - that he said, "Women are but playthings, so when one of you takes a plaything, let him choose a good one (19)." From Abu Hurayrah, he said: It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, which women are best?" He said (20): "The one who pleases him when he looks, obeys him when he commands, and does not contradict him regarding herself or her wealth (21) in what he dislikes." Reported by al-Nasa'i (22). From Yahya ibn Ja'dah, that the Messenger of Allah - peace and blessings of Allah be upon him - said, "The best benefit a Muslim man gains after his Islam is a beautiful woman, who pleases him when he looks at her, obeys him when he commands her, and protects him in his absence regarding her wealth (23) and her person." Reported by Sa'id (24).
(15) Its takhrij (authentication/sourcing) has preceded on page 342. (16) In the original, there is an addition: "al-umm" (the mother). It is not present in [the version of] al-Nasa'i. (17) In: The Chapter on the Dislike of Marrying the Sterile Woman, from the Book of Marriage. Al-Mujtaba 6/54. Also reported by Abu Dawud, in: The Chapter on the Prohibition of Marrying Women Who Do Not Bear Children, from the Book of Marriage. Sunan Abi Dawud 1/473. (18) We did not find it in the books of Hadith available to us. (19) In the original: "falyastahsinha." We did not find it [in the sources] either. (20) Dropped from [copies] B and M. (21) In M: "malihi" (his wealth). It is [recorded] with al-Nasa'i as it is here. (22) In: The Chapter on Which Women Are Best, from the Book of Marriage. Al-Mujtaba 6/56. Also reported by Imam Ahmad, in: Al-Musnad 2/251, 432, 438. (23) In M: "malihi." (24) In: The Chapter on Encouragement to Marry. Sunan Sa'id ibn Mansur 1/141.
يأْمُرُ بالباءَةِ، ويَنْهَى عن التَّبَتُّلِ نَهْيًا شديدًا، ويقول: "تَزَوَّجُوا الوَدُودَ الوُلودَ، فَإنِّى مُكاثِرٌ بِكُم الأُمَمَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ". رواه سعيدٌ (١٥). ورَوَى مَعْقِلُ بن يَسارٍ، قال: جاء رَجُلٌ إلى رسولِ اللَّه -صلى اللَّه عليه وسلم-، فقال: إنِّى أصَبْتُ امرأةً ذاتَ حَسَب ومَنْصِبٍ، إلَّا أنَّها لا تَلِدُ، أفأَتَزَوَّجُها؟ فنَهاه، ثم أتاه الثانيةَ، فنَهاه، ثم أتاه الثالثةَ، فقال: "تَزَوَّجُوا الْوَدُودَ الوُلودَ، فَإنِّى مُكاثِرٌ بِكُمْ" (١٦). روَاه النَّسَائِىُّ (١٧). وعن علىِّ بن الحُسَيْنِ، أَنَّ النَّبِىَّ -صلى اللَّه عليه وسلم-، قال: "يَا بَنِى هَاشِمٍ، عَلَيْكُمْ بنِسَاءِ الْأَعَاجِمِ، فَالْتَمِسُوا أوْلادَهُنَّ فإنَّ فِى أرْحَامِهِنَّ البَرَكَةَ" (١٨). ويخْتارُ الجميلةَ لأنَّها أسْكَنُ لنَفْسِه، وأغَضُّ لبَصَرِه، وأكْمَلُ لمَوَدَّتِه، ولذلك شُرِعَ النَّظَرُ قبلَ النِّكاحِ، وقد رُوِىَ عن أبى بكرِ بن محمدِ ابن عمرِو بن حَزْمٍ، عن رسولِ اللَّه -صلى اللَّه عليه وسلم-، أنَّه قال: "إنَّما النِّساءُ لُعَبٌ، فَإذَا اتَخذَ أحَدُكُم لُعْبةً فَلْيَسْتَحْسِنْهَا (١٩) ". وعن أبى هُريرةَ، قال: قيل يا رسولَ اللَّه، أىُّ النِّساءِ خَيْرٌ؟ قال (٢٠): "الَّتِى تَسُرُّهُ إذَا نَظَرَ، وتُطِيعُهُ إذَا أمَرَ، ولَا تُخالِفُه فِى نَفْسِهَا وَلا فِى مَالِهَا (٢١) بِمَا يَكْرَهُ". روَاه النَّسائىُّ (٢٢). وعن يحيى بن جَعْدةَ، أَنَّ رسولَ اللَّه -صلى اللَّه عليه وسلم- قال: "خَيْرُ فَائِدَةٍ أفَادَهَا الْمَرْءُ الْمُسْلِمُ بَعْدَ إسْلَامِه، امْرَأة جَمِيلَةٌ، تَسُرُّهُ إِذَا نَظَرَ إلَيْهَا، وتُطيعُهُ إذَا أمَرَهَا، وتَحْفَظُهُ فِى غَيْبَتِهِ فِى مَالِهَا (٢٣) ونَفْسِهَا". رواه سعيدٌ (٢٤).
(١٥) تقدم تخريجه فى صفحة ٣٤٢.(١٦) فى الأصل زيادة: "الأم". وليست عند النسائى.(١٧) فى: باب كراهية تزويج العقيم، من كتاب النكاح. المجتبى ٦/ ٥٤.كما أخرجه أبو داود، فى: باب النهى عن التزويج من لم يلد من النساء، من كتاب النكاح. سنن أبى داود ١/ ٤٧٣.(١٨) لم نجده فيما بين أيدينا من كتب الحديث.(١٩) فى الأصل: "فليحسنها". ولم نجده أيضًا.(٢٠) سقط من: ب، م.(٢١) فى م: "ماله". وهو عند النسائى كما هنا.(٢٢) فى: باب أى النساء خير، من كتاب النكاح. المجتبى ٦/ ٥٦.كما أخرجه الإمام أحمد، فى: المسند ٢/ ٢٥١، ٤٣٢، ٤٣٨.(٢٣) فى م: "ماله".(٢٤) فى: باب الترغيب فى النكاح. سنن سعيد بن منصور ١/ ١٤١.